Why can’t we live alone
[The Age of Adaline, 2015]
This post contains spoilers for The Age of Adaline.
If someone says that he can stop aging in the middle of the best moment in your life, would you accept that? I am pretty sure most people easily take the suggestion.
In the film, The Age of Adaline, Adaline who is the lead character has faced the weird magic. She is 29 years old like forever. In my view for the first time, that idea looked so cool, because I just thought that like “Oh I can take my youth permanently!.” However, after I watched Adaline’s whole story, I have realized that the magic was not a gift. Her daughter’s time flies so fast so, she already looks older than Adaline. Indeed, she even cannot love someone because whoever she loves, he will be getting older, while she will be still 29 years old. She cannot promise anything for the people she loves. Consequently, her life is just running away from everybody and everything.
As all reasons, for me, she looks that she has no desire for anything. Maybe, she has learned in life that desiring for something would be the cruel tragedy. Her eyes which looks empty made me feel the sense of loss.
People say that human being is a social creature, so we cannot live without other people. I always had an opposite opinion about it, because I thought people around me manipulate my decisions even they did never mean to and I believe in the theory that human nature is fundamentally evil. I have built these thoughts for a quite long time, slightly approached the conclusion that preferably living alone with no one would be better than living in the middle of the crowd and thought people have to stand alone by themselves.
However I just knew, the idea was ridiculous. There is a big difference between standing alone and being isolated from society. I overlooked an important fact. Loneliness which is from a lack of broader social contact brings the emotional discomfort. If you felt comfortable away from people, it would be for a short time. When you start to aware of a deficiency of relationships, the emotions would make you feel an emptiness and then you will never stop to spread the feeling. And soon, the loneliness begins feeding your body and your brain as Adaline has experienced.
The film made me think that I’ve never thought about. Of course, I know Adaline’s life is so unique and it’ll never happen to me but the feeling will come to me someday for sure. Everybody needs someone whoever makes you feel not alone. Will future me solve the problem? I hope she will.
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